They had a musical skit about dating. Youth speakers spoke about dating from male and female perspectives. The conference also featured Brad Wilcox, a member of the Sunday School general board, who spoke about how young men and young women can form proper and appropriate bonds.
He emphasized that the dating experience should be fun and should leave lasting, happy memories. This was the third annual dating conference for youth in the Dallas area.
Nearly priests and Laurels from eight stakes in the Dallas, Texas, area had gathered together for a dating conference. Enough excitement bounced around. New Era Apr. January · February · March · April · May · June · July · August · September · October
The youth and leaders who plan these conferences hope to combat troubling trends and ideas surrounding dating among teenagers today. One trend at many high schools these days is the tendency to date one person exclusively.
When talking about dating with my friends at school, I usually have to translate what it means to me. On the other hand, steady dating means the couple is exclusive with one another.
They expect each other not to date anyone else or to be emotionally or physically close with other people. Couples who date seriously consider the future, because there is a real possibility they could stay together. The problem is, a lot of teenagers jump the gun.
They think these friendship-type relationships are only for younger kids, and they plunge into romantic relationships more appropriate for young adults people in their 20s , who are in a position to think about marriage. These romantic relationships have two components: Generally speaking, boys crave the physical part more than girls do, and girls crave the emotional part more than boys do.
Because boys have less of a desire for emotional closeness, they are usually in control of how deep this aspect of the relationship will become. Likewise, because girls are less driven by a desire for a physical relationship, they are generally in control of how far that aspect of the relationship will go.
Marriage is where these two components come together in more perfect harmony.
Though LDS youth generally know the kinds of physical contact they should avoid sexual transgressions and inappropriate touching , they often wonder when it is OK to hug or kiss or do other such things. But these questions ignore the emotional half of the equation.
After high school and a mission, for a young man , if young adults become emotionally intimate and naturally desire physical intimacy, they are in a position to do something about it: Studies have shown that the longer a boy and girl date one another, the more likely they are to get into trouble. The important stages for teenagers to experience in their relationships are friendship and casual dating. Friendship is when two people discover they have similar interests, similar views—things in common.
They may hang out in the same social circle, study together, or participate in activities they both enjoy. If you choose to date after turning 16, the Church encourages you to date in groups.
The brilliance of group dating is that it prevents you from becoming too attached to one person of the opposite sex. It allows you to get to know a number of people and to interact with everybody else in the group, fostering a feeling of friendship.